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 Coming out / Disclosure of Sexual Identity

1. Have you been questioning about your opposite-sex attraction?

2. How comfortable are you with your same-sex attraction or gay/lesbian sexuality?

3. Are you knowledgeable about homosexuality should you be asked questions about it? Would you like to have some more resources/information about homosexuality?

4. Do you have any support or resources should your friends/family react badly?

5. What is the emotional climate at home? Is the family stressed? Is this the right time to reveal your sexuality? Will they be more accepting at another time?

6. What is your general relationship with your parents/family? Do you speak about intimate details or generally not? If not, how will any discussion of sexuality go over?

7. What are your parents’ social and religious views on homosexuality?

8. Are you financially dependent on your family? What would you do if they cut off your financial support on learning of your homosexuality?

9. Is it your decision to reveal your sexuality, or are you under pressure form elsewhere?

10. Have you experience negative reactions? Any homophobic discrimination or violence?

11. Do you feel stressed about the family conflict or negative reactions about your sexual or gender identity? How are you coping with that?

12. Do you have someone to talk to or help you while you’re going through this?

13. How comfortable are you in telling other people around you? Would you like to be selective on whom you tell? (see grid below)

To Whom   

Why                

When                  

How                  

Pros                  

Cons               

 Friends  

 

 

 

 

 

 Siblings    

 

 

 

 

 

 Parents

 

 

 

 

 

 Partner / spouse    

 

 

 

 

 

 Children  

 

 

 

 

 

 Other relatives    

 

 

 

 

 

 Classmates  

 

 

 

 

 

 Sports teammates / coach

 

 

 

 

 

 Colleagues / co-workers 

 

 

 

 

 

 Boss / supervisors 

 

 

 

 

 

 Business contacts 

 

 

 

 

 

 Neighbours / landlords  

 

 

 

 

 

 Other health care providers

 

 

 

 

 

 Religious associates           

 

 

 

 

 

 Acquaintances

 

 

 

 

 

 

(This section is adapted from Peterkin & Risdon, 2003, pp. 101, 178, 190)